Friday, August 24, 2012

Forever Friday: Maksim (+ How You Know Your Kids)

Hello, and Happy Friday!

Please don't forget that Jack's family's fundraiser runs until August 31st. They have lowered the donation amount to $6, and every little bit helps! Jack's family is halfway to where they need to be in terms of funding; his adoption costs a whopping $40,000!

 Also, the Prichard family, who are adopting sweet Lucas and Lance and making these boys who were living in the same groupa brothers, currently has a $1,300 matching grant. They need just $400 more to receive their full amount. We pulled it off for little Oliver. Let's do the same for Lucas and Lance!

This little cutie is Maksim. Maksim turned 8 in June. He has Down syndrome and is described as quiet. I love his colorful turtleneck! So appropriate for a Reece's Rainbow child!

Not much is known about Maksim, which is probably why his grant stands at just $67.50. It's often easier for people to make an emotional connection with children whose profiles list lots of information or heart-rending descriptions of how the child longs for a family. It's easier to get a sense of a child's personality when their likes and dislikes or school achievement is detailed.

But for a lot of the listed kids, the information simply isn't there. The only thing they have to go on is their picture. Not all the kids even have good pictures. The odds are stacked against them! 

Luckily for Maksim, someone took an interest in him and asked me to blog about him. It can be hard to know what to say about a child who has so little information available. I can make the requisite comments about imagining the child playing in the backyard or watching movies with his siblings or climbing onto the school bus for the first time. These comments can (I hope) allow readers to view the children as potential family members and not just anonymous orphans far away.

But in the end, we don't really know these children. Even when children have several paragraphs of information, we really know nothing about them. In the end, it comes down to the fact that some kids are meant to be in some families, and when their families find them, they know who they are.

We were matched with our son via two lines of text on a waiting child list ... a paper list, no less, with no pictures! Our agency mailed a shockingly thick stack of paper, stapled together in one corner, listing all the children it was trying to place - page after page after page of children. It was heartbreaking to read through it. Many of the children were older boys who had waited years. It was nearly impossible to turn our backs on them, but we were young parents, inexperienced, with a small daughter. We didn't feel capable of adopting an older child, much less an older boy. (The joke was on us, though, as we returned the next year to adopt an 11 year old!) Nonetheless, we read through each child's information. Each child was a unique individual, and we didn't feel right skipping over the kids who didn't meet our age or gender criteria or who were part of sibling groups (we wanted a single child).

And then ... there he was. He appeared so suddenly we were both surprised. Two lines of type, giving his name, approximate age, his health status, and the fact that he was a messy eater. That was it. Two lines of 12-point type buried in the middle of a text list over two dozen pages long of waiting children. 

And he was our son.

We've had him nearly 8 years now.

So in the end, it's not the wealth of information that's intended to make you feel that you know the child that makes all the difference. It is simply this, as I have been saying since we brought our son home: When you find your kids, you know who they are.

Please share Maksim's photo and information so that his family can know him, too. Please consider donating to increase his grant fund or becoming his Guardian Angel. Please consider whether Maksim has a place in your family.

Also, please don't forget Denis and Jason, two other kids who leaped out at me when I ran across their pictures. Neither child had any information listed about him. Through some diligent work and networking on my part, I have managed to dig up some information on each child. It makes me feel better to think I know something about these children, but in the end any information I receive doesn't change the fact that each child is exquisite and perfect and needs a family to love him, and somehow they were meant to come into my life so that I could help their families find them. More information will be coming about Jason in my very next post (I know I have been threatening that for a while ... this time I mean it!). You can donate to both Denis and Jason's grant funds by clicking the links in the upper right sidebar of my blog.


  1. I agree! I love those eyes. And seriously, could Lucas and Lance be any cuter????